What you’ll love about me

I’m down to earth and have a good sense of humor, two extremely beneficial traits – when used effectively – particularly in couples therapy.

I’m also highly qualified, something many therapists offering couples therapy, unfortunately, are not. My breadth of experience has prepared me for just about anything.

I create an open-minded, safe space. I keep my education cutting-edge and up-to-date by frequently attending the latest trainings and workshops to further my expertise, understanding, and awareness.

I consider myself to be a sex positive, kink positive, LGBTQ and poly affirming therapist (possessing certification in consensual non-monogamy). You don’t have to worry about being judged or shocking me.

I work well with a vast array of personalities, such as:

  • The emotionally open
  • The concrete, intellectually based engineer-minded
  • Those with narcissistic characteristics, often times hiding pain and underlying insecurity
  • The “I don’t believe in therapy” type

I can help bridge the gap when you feel you and your partner aren’t speaking the same language, because you experience the world so differently.

I can help you identify existing relationship patterns and work with you to break free from negative cycles.

I’m comfortable sitting with your anger, bearing witness to your pain, and holding your hope alive when these things seem impossible for you to do alone.

What I’ll love about working with you…

You are both intelligent, driven, and successful,

You both want to be the best version of yourselves,

and you both want a successful relationship.

What we’ll love about working together

Because I take on a smaller caseload, I’m very selective, so if after our consultation you receive an invitation to work with me, take heart – it means I’m confident I can help you reach your relationship goals.

At that point, the choice is up to you.

Are you ready?

Reach out today, and let’s see where the journey takes us.

About

real friend

Love me or hate me.
Chances are when you first meet me, you’re going
to have a strong first impression.

Okay, so maybe that’s a bit extreme; but the truth
is, my approach is not a good fit for everyone.

But clients who click with my style say that
sessions with me are like talking to a good friend.

A real friend.

A friend who doesn’t sugar coat things – who forces you to take an honest look at yourself and what you’re bringing to your relationship – the good, the bad, and the ugly – while remaining compassionate and warm.

Because that’s what a real friend does.

When you get to know me, you’ll find I get it.

I understand the challenges your particular lifestyle brings to the table in terms of starting couples therapy.

I recognize the value of your time and privacy.

You don’t want to waste it sitting in traffic just trying to get to me only then to worry about the lack of privacy you are likely to feel in a traditional therapy setting.

That won’t happen with me.

It’s all about your comfort.

A critical component to successful couples therapy is how comfortable you feel in the process and with me.

Where could you possibly feel more comfortable than in your own home, on your own couch, with your favorite mug and perhaps your dog or cat curled up beside you?

A safe environment makes it feel safer to be vulnerable with your partner, and that is what I will be asking of you throughout this journey together. Being in your own space allows you to set create the physical safety, together we will create the emotional version.

Secure. Supported. Liberated.

In the space we create,

You can feel safe.

You can speak freely.

Because you know I’m there.

To help you and your partner process whatever is said. No matter how emotional.

I’ll push when I need to push – and give space when you need it. I will witness the pain and hold the hope for you when you feel you’ve lost it.

In time, you’ll learn to do these things for each other, without me.

My Approach

Potent Passion

Recently, a client told me that what drew her and her husband to me was the passion they saw in me when I talked about couples therapy during their initial consultation. I truly do believe in the power of the process.

While many therapists describe couples therapy as exhausting, I have always found it to be refreshing. Sitting with you, witnessing your pain, holding your hope when you feel like you’ve lost it and helping you in the process of finding a path back to each other is genuinely an honor.

Powerful Impact

I don’t take lightly the importance of what we do when we meet.

Our romantic relationships are the nucleus of our lives – and when they’re healthy, the positive impact permeates every other area. Likewise, when we’re struggling in that relationship, the negative current impacts everything else, including work and our children.

Solid Investment

Couples therapy is an investment in your relationship – and future. This investment is far more important than that made for a wedding day, a vacation, or a house. What good is any of that if the relationship falls apart?

It may be the last attempt at saving your relationship, and I‘m humbled by your willingness to invite me into that experience.

My Commitment

I will always give you the best of me. I’ll work hard – even when you’re exhausted and don’t know if you can do it anymore.

Couples therapy can be difficult, but my goal is always to make it as easy as possible. Even when I am direct, I’ll always hold your relationship with compassion and empathy and when appropriate, I will use humor to lighten the mood.

Your Concerns

Going to couples therapy can feel scary. I recognize that.

I understand the nervousness – the fear that you’ll be judged – or that it won’t work. I know you may worry it will lead to more conflict as you – and your partner – share your deeper truths.

I relate to all of these feelings because I, too, have gone to couples therapy. I’m biased, but I believe everyone can benefit from it. And, for me, it had a positive impact on my relationship with my husband.

Other’s Failures

That said, one reason my experience was so positive was that I knew what to look for. I was aware that many therapists who offer couples therapy have not had any specified training in it. I knew to look for someone who had sought it out on their own, and I looked for someone with training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

I have heard countless stories from clients who have had negative experiences with couples therapy in the past. It’s blatantly obvious as they speak that it failed because the clinician was trying to do individual therapy with two people in the room – instead of couples therapy. Rookie mistake.

The differences you’ll feel with me

I can’t stress enough how much this is a pet peeve of mine. As I began developing more of an interest in couples therapy, I made sure to seek out as much training as I could find. I completed my bachelor’s degree at Boston University and earned my master’s from the University of Denver. But my training in couples therapy did not happen at either of those schools, as is typical for most programs other than those for Marriage and Family Therapy. I dipped my toes into couples therapy through a program at the Denver Family Institute while I was in graduate school and I was hooked. But I knew that brief introduction in no way made me competent. As a result, I’m constantly putting forth the effort to continue my education and training – to serve you better.

I have extensive training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, Sex Therapy and Discernment Counseling. I have also completed numerous trainings with Esther Perel, Dan Wile, Barry McCarthy, and many others. I’ve attended couples therapy seminars through Harvard University, am certified by the AANE as a Neurodiverse Couples therapist and am certified by the Sexual Health Alliance as a Consensual Non-Monogamy therapist.

Previous clients have stated that at the end of therapy with me they have greater intimacy and connectedness in their relationship and are better able to manage conflicts when they arise.

This has also been my personal experience as a client.

I often hear from couples long after they’ve finished with me stating how much closer they feel after therapy, closer in fact than they did at any other time in their relationship.

This can be true of your relationship, too!

Reach out now by calling me at (774) 219-0943. We can begin the process of creating your success story together.