Marital And Couples Counseling

Elite Couples Therapy and Coaching

Let’s be real: relationships are work. Hard work.

Yet, too often, couples expect them to flow easily, like they did in the very beginning, without any effort at all. And perhaps they do, for a while.

It can be easy to get lulled into complacency and stop doing the things necessary to maintain a satisfying relationship. Your focus shifts to kids, work, and keeping up with the household.

Somewhere along the line, your relationship stops being a priority. And then, you inevitably drift apart, without even realizing it’s happening. Before you know it, it almost seems as though you don’t even know the person sleeping next to you.

You find yourself feeling uncomfortable when Marvin Gaye starts singing “Let’s Get It On,” and long for the days when that would have instead been an invitation to a night of passion.

The sexual intimacy has dwindled, and you want it back. You want your partner to want you again, or maybe you are the one who has lost that desire, but you have hope that it can be rekindled.

You don’t want to be content and have a relationship that survives, you want one that thrives!

This wasn’t supposed to happen to you two.

Everyone thought you were the perfect couple. It’s not like you expected this to happen when you first got into this relationship.

You probably looked at all the couples around you that seemed unhappy and thought “THAT will never be US.”

Yet, here you are, and you don’t know how to make things better.

Perhaps it’s earlier on in your relationship, and you DO have the insight to realize that that could happen to you – and you want the skills to make sure it NEVER does.

Or maybe you don’t want to fall into the footsteps of your parents’ unhappy marriage, and you want to ensure that you will continue to grow as a couple throughout your whole relationship.

Regardless of where you are in your relationship – or how simple or serious your issues are, couples therapy can help you either reconnect or strengthen the connection you already have.

If you’re willing to put in the work – if you’re willing to allow yourself to be vulnerable – if you’re willing to go deep and explore the roots of your perpetual problems – if you recognize therapy is an investment of time, money and energy into your relationship and future – couples therapy can make what you two already have even stronger!

In therapy, I will teach you a new way to communicate with each other, and you will learn that there’s a difference between just listening and truly understanding what your partner is saying and feeling.

You will see how easy it is to fall into miscommunication traps and develop the skills needed to avoid them.

You’ll learn how to bridge the gap when it seems like you’re speaking different languages, and you’ll discover new ways of creating intimacy and connection in your relationship.

You will come to recognize that vulnerability is necessary and accept that sometimes you will leave the session feeling exhausted and raw. But because you know it is an investment, you will be willing to endure in the hope of a connection more powerful than you have ever had before.

I recognize and appreciate the complexity of your lives. I understand why you are looking for a therapist who is more flexible, accessible and available.

I designed Concierge Couples Counseling with that in mind. Following more of a concierge type model, I am able to offer you the things that are important to you besides just exceptional clinical skills.

Couples therapy doesn’t always fit into a nice 60-minute box which is why my standard session is 90-minutes. But sometimes even that’s not enough and I understand the frustration of being on the verge of something great or feeling raw and too vulnerable and having the therapist say the session is over because there is another couple in the waiting room.

With me, you don’t have to worry about that because I factor in extra time for these occasions. When clinically appropriate, we will go over the 90 minutes at no extra charge.

And because sessions are virtual, you don’t have to waste time traveling through traffic to get to my office. You can be living your life up until the very minute our session starts.

The more comfortable you are, the deeper the work goes. Meeting with you virtually allows you to create the most convenient space possible.

Whether that is in your sweatpants on the couch with your favorite blanket and your dog in your lap or at your kitchen table with your favorite cup of tea, it is YOUR space – you’re free to feel more comfortable being vulnerable, an essential part of therapy.

Because this is an elite service, and the commitment required limits how many clients I can carry on my caseload at any given time, I am very selective when deciding which couples to work with.

The truth is, there are certain characteristics I look for in potential clients – intelligent, driven, hard working, successful – to name a few. These qualities increase the likelihood that we will work well together.

If you are interested in becoming clients, we will meet for a complimentary consultation. If I feel it is a good fit, I will extend to you an invitation, at which point you will decide whether or not you want to work with me.

If I don’t have any current openings, I will place you on my waiting list and contact you once space opens up.

If we decide to work together, I will meet with you as a couple for the first session, then individually for a session each, and then again as a couple moving forward.

Online Sessions are 1 1/2 hours, and further time is allowed at no additional cost for sessions where the necessity for extra time presents itself.

Together, we’ll use a combination of therapeutic modalities with an emphasis on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and The Gottman Method.

Reach out today to start putting things back together again……